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Have you decided to Stay?

Most victims leave an abusive relationship 3-7 times and return again before leaving for good, but some decide to stay for a number of reasons. If you have decided not to leave an abuser, here are some things to keep in mind for safety planning:


  • Learn where to get help if necessary; memorize emergency phone numbers.
  • Keep a phone in a room you can lock from the inside. If you can, get a cellular phone that you keep with you at all times.
  • Plan an escape route out of your house (and teach it to your children).
  • Think about where you would go if you need to escape.
  • Stay away from the kitchen where the abuser has easy access to weapons. Stay away from bathrooms, closets, or small places where the abuser can trap you. Teach this point to your children.
  • Pack a bag with important things you would need if you had to leave quickly; put it in a safe place, or give it to a friend or relative you trust.
  • If applicable, take pictures of bruises, injuries, damaged property, etc.
  • Call Hope Center’s hotline to discuss a more in-depth safety plan.